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Does your relationship need a conflict resolution boost?
We have been at this relationship building thing for a while and have had our fair share of ups and downs, as healthy coupling relationship do. It was when we couldn't depend on the length of our relational capital alone to carry us through that we went looking for tangible real life solutions. And we want to share those same solutions with you.
We are Gottman^TM Certified Marriage Educators for the 7 Principles Course and we are also certified SYMBIS^TM facilitators. We have worked with numerous couples from the dating to the married and hurting. And all we want to see is marriages thriving through learning the tools for a dynamic relationship with health conflict management.

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The LITTLE MEDICINE BOOK WHY NOW?

To break the cycle of shame and silence around life and marriage for us. There are many things that lie beneath the surface that affect our behaviors and the way we show up in life and marriage. While genetics may play a role, the truth is that the effect of genetics is not inevitable. Environmental influences tend to shape our behavior and put us on a path where we do not stop to interrogate why we do the things we do.But we have a choice in the matter.We can one certain day (over time) choose to turn off the autopilot taking us on the broad road of living based on other people's expectations of us and instead take the less traveled path.Telling our raw stories through this book is one of the paths we have chosen. The other involves the in-depth and solutions-oriented conversations we will be having live on the Grey Couch.

ABOUT The 4C's

We like to say that being able to foresee the 4Cs can help steer a marriage through choppy waters.

So, what are these 4Cs?

1. Conversations (Communication)

2. Coins (Money)

3. Coupling (Sex)

4. Cradling (Parenting)

CONVERSATIONS

The Bedrock of the 4Cs. If this C is right, all the others will be alright eventually.But how do we get this C right?
Two of the strategies we talk about in our book are around Active Listening and Active Constructive Responding or ACR.As you can see, both deal with action to some degree.Passive Communication is a No-No.
No stonewalling allowed!

COINS

Money, Money, Money, Always Money in the Rich Man's World or so the famous song goes.But is it really?We have found that money; the presence, the absence or the mismanagement of it from either party's perspective can be a game changer or a deal breaker.We break down some best practices to work on this C.Hint: We are still working on this one ourselves (We tell all about it in the book).

coupling

It was hard to decide whether to place this C second or third. But when we realized that coupling can be quite impacted by coins, it became clear that this was indeed the third layer.Although the general idea is that most men typically want this C to be the base layer, but if the first 2 Cs are ignored, then this C suffers.This is also the C where the most shame and discomfort creeps or crashes into a marriage bed if we are not vigilant.So we can either ignore this C at our own life satisfaction peril or get it right for the long term. The older we get, the better this C will be if the foundations are right.The good news is that we can learn to rebuild the foundations aright.

cradling

Last but certainly not least. Because if not managed and coordinated well, its sheer length and intense duration can cause systemic fractures in a marriage.We recognize that this C can either be an extremely personal choice (to birth or not to birth) or an unsatisfied desire and longing for many couples.It is also the most emotional layer since we tend to judge our worth by our ability to procreate and also by the outcome of that ability with regards to raising what we consider the perfect progeny.We break with many conventions around this C in our book, which from an African and Judeo-Christian perspective may not quite be what we are used to hearing.

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We're so glad you stopped by. We can't wait to see you on the Grey Couch soon.

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